NETWORK: @peach0341 (anonymous) [post soujuurou's wild ride]

[destage]

What would you consider the most unforgivable thing that a person could do to you? Something that someone could do, that they could never take back?

If it has been done to you, what happened? How did you treat that person afterward, if you kept in contact with them? If you didn't, do you regret ever severing off from them?

Have you done anything unforgivable? How did people respond to that--did they let you get a word in edge-wise to explain, or did they abandon you? Did you have to find your own way afterwards? How did it go for you, if so?

Do you think there's anything that one can do to earn forgiveness, depending on the severity of what happened? Do they deserve it? Does it depend? And is there a certain point that someone's allowed to give up on trying to find it, and should just stop trying to be good?

I'm curious as to what everyone's answers will be. Please don't give anymore info than you're comfortable with; these are just things that have been on my mind, lately. And please don't be rude to each other.

[this seems. infinitely more like a stream of conscious than anything actually coherent, but there's at least an attempt at maintaining some modicum of privacy. have at. be it on main or giving yourself a nice plurk-style anon-name, go for it.]

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[supherb]

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Thanks, apple. For what it's worth I'm sorry your mom mistreated you.

(Why are there so many of us in the same spot? Is Braphine trying to say something??)

I guess I'm still in that figuring out stage when it comes to him. I just wish I could ask him why he put his goals above his own son.

[beathollow]

Thank you.

All I can say is... Take your time and think things through. Thats all you can do.

It's okay if your opinions change, and change again. People are like seasons, after all. And it's okay if you can't figure it out right now. It's a hard subject.

Just be kind to yourself. Don't believe you have to do anything that would hurt you more.





Also Braphine is absolutely saying something. But I can't say that I hate it, exactly.

[supherb]

You know, it's a huge relief to read all this. Back home I started trying to make plans for the future just so I could have something else to focus on. It's good to know that I'm not just avoiding all the unsorted feelings by doing that.

Yeah...it's weirdly nice? It sucks to know that this is so common, but it's also nice to know you're not alone. This isn't something I can really talk with my friends back home about. They've got parents who are there for them, even if they can be a little overbearing with their love. Can't help but wish I knew what that's like, though.

cw allusions to theoretical physical abuse just in case

[beathollow]

I think I understand that. As awful as it is that someone else knows this pain, not being alone in the world is comforting.

My close friends all understand in their own ways. But at school, I don't think anyone would believe me. I always thought I didn't have anything to complain about, since it's not like... she left a mark. I'm realizing otherwise now, though.

But I also understand that longing. When I see mothers who act the way I wish she'd acted, it hurts.

cw continued

[supherb]

Yeah... Just because it wasn't physical doesn't mean it didn't hurt. You've got every right to be upset about it and I'm glad you had the realization.

Right?? I try not to complain about it when I'm around them because I know that's not fair to them but it's hard sometimes. Maybe it'll get easier when I get older. IDK.

[beathollow]

Maybe. Maybe not. Regardless, all you can do is try. Your health and happiness is the most important.